After nine days away from home and the blogging world, I've returned with a new perspective on so many different aspects of my life. As I make the transition back to reality, there are a few key lessons I need to be sure to keep with me and implement in my daily life.
Two different nights last week ended with me feeling completely and utterly stupid. Thanks to a group of law students and their extreme level of book-smarts during a local trivia night, I immediately became uncomfortable. Honestly, during the two nights combined, for a total of 100 questions, I don't think I could have answered more than 3 correctly.
As my friend and I drove home, I confessed my feelings of inadequacy and was immediately stopped from my typical self-destructive behavior. In that moment, I was unaware of the idea that all humans possess different levels of intelligence. Sure, these nerdy, book-smart law students score way above average on standard logical intelligence tests, but how would they score on the other 5 types of intelligence?
Verbal, visual, physical, musical, logical, and most importantly, emotional (combines interpersonal and introspective) intelligences can all be used to determine how "smart" an individual is. My friend reminded me of an incident earlier in the day where my emotional intelligence helped pull him out of a dark, depressive negative spiral. He insisted my intelligence was no less than anyone's at the table; it was actually higher than most of his buddies, but on a different level.
Emotional intelligence can be defined as the ability to perceive, control, and evaluate emotions not only in myself, but in others as well. Some believe that emotional intelligence is just as, if not more important than logical intelligence in order to live a healthy and balanced life. Over the past year of recovery, learning to be in touch with my emotions has allowed me to develop healthier coping mechanisms and become aware of the emotions of those around me helping build stronger relationships.
Somewhere over the course of my life, I developed a belief that, thanks to my mediocre grades, I must not be very smart. I am one of those people who need to study like a maniac for basic, general ed courses; while my law school friend could probably ace the final without attending one class.
But that doesn't mean I'm not intelligent.
My brain works differently than most and for the first time ever, I don't necessarily see that as a bad thing. Yes, when those law school students asked me what I was going into and I said social work, I felt insanely insecure because there's a good chance most of them could get a social work degree in their sleep. However, and most importantly, that doesn't make me any less of a person or mean I will be less successful in life.
School starts in a week and I am thrilled to start the semester with a new found sense of intelligence.