Even though my last post was incredibly upbeat, I have spent the past 36 in a funk. All I really want to do is sleep, isolate, and be grumpy. We all know being around people who are in a bad mood is an immediate downer, so why is it so difficult to pull ourselves out of these bad moods sometimes?
Putting on a happy face (even if it's a fake happy face) isn't something I have ever had trouble doing, until now. A huge part of recovery for me has been learning to be real rather than pretending like everything in my life is fabulous. So I guess in a way these past 36 hours are a sign of progress because I definitely have not put on a happy face mask, but I'm sick of feeling like a monster.
As a way to pull myself out of this nasty funk, I came up a list of ways to help brighten my mood:
Call my best friend
Watch a good movie
Remind myself of how much has changed in 1 year
Have lunch with a friend
Go for a walk
Bake some cookies
Buy myself some flowers
Clean or do some much needed laundry
Lay out and get some sun
Listen to a favorite playlist
Use creative outlets
Curl up with a favorite book
Watch this video
And if none of those work, here are a few benefits of smiling:
Makes you seem trustworthy: We generally interpret a genuine smile to mean that this is someone who is honest and trustworthy. Those who smile are rated higher in generosity and friendliness.
It eases embarrassment: People will laugh with (not at) you if you laugh or smile.
If you smile with others when they share good news, you’re less likely to feel jealous or annoyed at them: Interestingly, even if we smile politely but we feel slightly annoyed, our emotion quickly changes and we feel happy ourselves. Somehow we feel much better for having chosen to be “nice”.
It can ease any feelings of distress or pain: Smiling stops us from spiraling into negativity and eases our feelings of shock and distress.
It can help with problem-solving: When we’re stressed or nervous our focus seems to narrow and it makes it harder to find answers or solutions. But when we smile, the tension eases and we think of more ideas.
Smiles are contagious: My favorite reason of all.
If I'm being honest, a younger version of myself would have put very little effort into pulling myself out of a funk. Finding reasons to smile when I would much rather curl up in bed is not easy, but I'm quickly learning life is way too short not to.